Crawl out of that Space!

Becoming a mom was difficult for me. I victimized myself in every situation. I felt that odds were against me such as time, my career, anxiety and depression. Let me elaborate.

1. Time: there’s only 24 hours in a day. A day for me consist of driving to and from work, actually working, coming home to cater to my fiance and daughter. How do I possibly make time to work out, study real estate, study the Bible, and run a non profit organization?!?!

2. Career: though I am advancing in corporate I have felt that view me as inferior because I’m a mom, I’m probably the youngest manager on the floor, I’m new.

3. Anxiety & Depression: it looks different on me. I’m very driven and collected. You’ll never know that I’m overwhelmed. I just implode. I’m very still, and conscious, and serious. During these times I’m labeled as “a stickler” “a shark” “boring” a “perfectionist.” It can seem positive. But man o man….

Do you experience similar things? I hope my journey can be a blessing to you.

What I’ve come to realize after 27 months of being a mommy, is that I changed. Circumstances have evolved for everyone since literally the beginning of time. Why did this one shake me up so much?

well, sometimes these changes are what shake us the most because it forces us to confront parts of ourselves we didn’t expect or fully understand. Becoming a mom, in particular, is such a transformative experience, and maybe it's shaking me up because it’s demanding not just from me as a parent but also from my identity and sense of self.

Thankfully, I’ve rediscovered some helpful solutions.

1. Time Management

   • Prioritize: Focus on your non-negotiables each day, and break your day into time blocks.

   • Delegate: Share tasks at work or home when possible to free up time for your goals.

   • Batch Tasks: Group similar tasks together to increase efficiency.

   • Self-care: Schedule small breaks each day, even if it’s just 15 minutes, to recharge.

2. Career

   • Seek Mentorship: Find mentors who can guide you in navigating work-life balance and career growth.

   • Communicate Strengths: Frame your “perfectionist” traits as assets to your team.

   • Confidence: Remind yourself of your past successes, and push against feelings of inadequacy.

   • Set Boundaries: Protect your personal time by setting clear boundaries between work and home.

3. Anxiety & Depression

   • Recognize Triggers: Identify what sparks anxiety or depression, so you can address them proactively.

   • Healthy Outlets: Exercise, journaling, and mindfulness practices can help reduce stress.

   • Therapy & Support: Consider speaking to a therapist or joining a support group to better manage emotions.

   • Medication (if necessary): If needed, consult a healthcare provider for professional support.

4. General Wellness

   • Mindset Shift: Focus on what you get to do rather than what you have to do, and shift towards positivity.

   • Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge your small victories and give yourself credit for progress.

By applying these strategies, you can manage the demands of motherhood and work while prioritizing your mental health and well-being.

I’m glad I’m not alone in this journey called motherhood. I hope this helped you.

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Lacie Davis